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Casey_Rose
Casey_Rose
12/10/25 6:20pm
This May I came out to my parents as a trans girl. Their first thing they asked was if I like guys now. I didn't know how to answer that without a fight so I just laughed and avoided the question. I'm still exploring if I'm a lesbian or bi. Ever since I came out to them they just started to lie to me a bunch and betray my trust over and over. They come up with random reasons why they do stuff, but I know it's because they hate that I'm trans instead of their little straight mormon boy. I don't know how to handle them or anything and as I've been expressing my femininity, they've only gotten worse and I'm scared to tell them that I want to get stuff like HRT (hormones) and SRS (sex change). Any tips?
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Nonbinary is real
Nonbinary is real
12/15/25 7:51pm
Oh nooo I'm so sorry D: well I will always think of you as a girl and if you need support leave a message on my profile I'm rooting for you!
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That_one_trans_kid
That_one_trans_kid
12/10/25 10:08pm
If you don't feel safe. don't do it. I would personally wait until your personally financially stable and don't need their help anymore. Best of luck on your transition!!
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Casey_Rose
Casey_Rose
12/11/25 2:57pm
any advice for trying to get clothes? they seem to let me dress the way I want as long as I stay my room
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Nonbinary is real
Nonbinary is real
12/15/25 11:05pm
Well at least you can dress how you want in your room?? Yeah, that's cruel of them, but better than nothing. I have an accepting family and I'm a femboy (I'm afab tho) and I made my own thigh highs by cutting up tights. I guess if they let you buy stuff but if not try to make it, and possibly do a teeny accessory. I'm on your team!
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That_one_trans_kid
That_one_trans_kid
12/15/25 11:53pm
If you wanna dress like SUPER girly, like dresses, skirts, ect. and your parents don't care as long as you're in your room, I would go on amazon or some online store and buy clothes from there. If you wanna wear stuff like crop tops at school, I would wear a sweatshirt over it and just take the sweatshirt off when you get there. For skirts and stuff at school i would like put them in your backpack and wear pants when they pick you up and drop you off but change into the skirt when you get to school! Hope this helps!!!
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Casey_Rose
Casey_Rose
12/16/25 2:39pm
I would but I dont have access to any online shopping, plus my dad is a teacher at my school. and I need a job
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