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Confused_alicorn
Confused_alicorn
02/13/26 7:02pm
I need help my cousin is my best friend and when I told her I don't identify with my gender she started crying and guilt tripping me to stay a girl even though I know I'm not a boy and then she brought her mother in to convince me to stay a girl saying she just wants someone to talk to my aunt is lesbian and after that reaction I'm scared to come out and my parents are insanely homophobic so please need your advice!!!
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JinxWasHere!
JinxWasHere!
02/18/26 9:27pm
First of all, I'm so sorry this happened to you. She seems a bit homophobic bc she didn't support you and she made it a huge deal for no reason
You are not obligated to come out if it puts you at risk of being kicked out or abused. Being closeted for safety is a valid choice and doesn't make your identity any less real
If they keep pressuring you, you can say: "I love you, but I am not gonna debate who I am. If you keep trying to convince me to 'stay a girl,' I’m going to have to take a break from this conversation".
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