How to Attract an Aquarius Guy & Make Him Fall in Love

Psychic astrologer Stina Garbis shares how to get this zodiac sign’s attention (and keep it)

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Amber Crain

Last Updated: February 2, 2026 Fact Checked

Aquarius guys are known for their brilliant minds and independent spirits. Emotions, though? Not exactly their strong suit. If you're crushing on an Aquarius guy, you're probably trying to figure out how to get him hooked so he keeps coming back for more. Don't worry, we've got you! We spoke with professional astrologers to create this helpful list of tips for wooing the Aquarius man of your dreams. Scroll on down for everything you need to know!

Making an Aquarius Man Obsessed With You

Psychic astrologer Stina Garbis suggests building a solid friendship with him first. Share your opinions in a non-confrontational way and don’t be afraid to reveal your quirkier side, which he’ll appreciate. Bond with him over shared interests and have deep conversations with him to show him how intelligent you are.

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Build a strong friendship first.

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This sign values friendship over all other relationships. Aquarians love community and group dynamics. Loyalty is very important to them and they want a partner who can also be a best friend. Instead of pushing for romance right away, Garbis recommends building a strong friendship in the beginning.^{[1]
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- He'll want to get to know you and learn to trust you before jumping into a serious relationship.
- Focus on connecting as a friend instead of trying to impress him. Aquarius men tend to pick up on inauthenticity, and that may turn him off.
- Garbis suggests engaging in friendly, low-key activities with him (like playing board games) and don’t be afraid to show off your quirky side.^{[2]
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Meet the wikiHow Experts

Stina Garbis is a psychic astrologer and owner of Psychic Stina, a psychic business based in Oregon. She’s been a psychic, medium, and astrologer for over 30 years.

Angel Eyedealism is an astrologer based in Manhattan’s Lower East Side. She has nearly 30 years of astrology experience.

Tali & Ophira Edut, also known as the AstroTwins, are astrologers, intuitive advisors, and best-selling authors. They’re also the long-time resident astrologers at ELLE magazine.

Kyle Thomas is a globally recognized pop culture astrologer based in Los Angeles, California. He’s also the official Resident Astrologer for PEOPLE Magazine.

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Be a little mysterious.

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Aquarius men tend to get bored if you tip your hand too soon. Professional Astrologer Angel Eyedealism says, “Don't get too personal too fast. Aquarians hate that.”^{[3]
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Expert Interview} It’s important to share things about yourself so he can get to know you, but don’t tell him everything! Be a little cryptic when you talk about what you’re up to, your past, and so on. Try to create a bit of intrigue around yourself and he'll keep coming back for more.^{[4]
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- Don’t hide anything important or be disingenuous with him, though. Aquarius folks tend to be intuitive and they appreciate honesty.

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Show off your creative side.

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Don't be afraid to be artistic and quirky around him—he'll love it. Garbis says that Aquarians are quirky themselves, and they appreciate that quality in others.^{[5]
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Expert Interview} They’re known to admire uniqueness and they tend to dislike people who are super traditional. The more you can stand out from the conventional crowd with your ideas and suggestions, the better! A few ideas for you:
- If he’s coming over to your house, make sure your favorite art is on display (and be ready to talk about it).
- Suggest going to a contemporary art museum or gallery opening the next time you're making plans to hang out.
- Surprise him with tickets to an art-house film or a local theater production.

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Impress him with your intelligence.

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Aquarius folks are smart and they're looking for an intellectual equal. If your man is a typical Aquarius, he prizes brains over beauty any day of the week. Since this sign loves learning new things, bring plenty of ideas and knowledge to the table. He'll be particularly drawn to topics like science fiction, social activism, philosophy, and the arts.^{[6]
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- Eyedealism says it’s crucial to impress an Aquarius guy with your intellect and show him that you can match his intellect in conversation. She suggests bringing up interesting ideas and concepts with him.^{[7]
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- For example, gush about the interesting concepts in a science fiction novel you just read. He’ll be impressed if you name check writers like William Gibson, Neal Stephenson, and Phillip K. Dick.
- Aquarius men love eccentric ideas. If you've got a weird theory about the paranormal or a wild view on the future of artificial intelligence, spill it!

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Bond with him over shared interests.

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Aquarius men love to connect over shared passions. If you aren’t sure what he’s interested in, just ask him! Or, if you want to be a little more lowkey, check his social media profile for clues about what he’s into, then learn more about those things so you can bring them up with him. Garbis agrees with this tactic and suggests adopting some of his hobbies and interests, like video games, specialty events (like sci-fi conventions), and his favorite apps.^{[8]
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- Use your shared interests as reasons to get together and hang out! For example, if he’s a chess enthusiast, invite him over for a game.

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Dress in classy, fashionable clothes.

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Put on something stylish that helps you stand out from the crowd. Designer labels won’t impress him, but it's important to him that you look unconventional, cool, and arty. Try to put a little extra time and effort into your ensembles; he’ll be drawn to your unique style. When in doubt, lean toward sophisticated clothes over trends or revealing outfits. Aquarius men like to keep it classy!
- Garbis says, “Wear something unique, be different and edgy to catch his attention.”^{[9]
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- She also recommends adding something eye-catching to your outfits, like a bright scarf or brooch.^{[10]
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Keep your emotions in check.

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Stay cool and rational no matter what the situation is. Aquarius folks aren’t sentimental; in fact, they’re known for being quite detached from their emotions. They dislike chaotic situations and will do almost anything to avoid drama. When you’re around him, try to make decisions based on logic and reason. Avoid emotional outbursts and heated confrontations.^{[11]
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- You can still be warm and flirty with him; he’ll love that. But if you go overboard talking about your feelings, he'll probably shut down the conversation quickly.
- Astrologer Kyle Thomas says, “Aquarians can seem aloof or emotionally unavailable because they prefer analyzing feelings over experiencing them deeply.”^{[12]
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- “This detachment can make them seem unemotional, but they value genuine connections,” Thomas continues.^{[13]
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Be fun-loving and adventurous.

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Aquarius men love spontaneity and trying new things. This sign tends to be very social, so get pumped about hitting the town and be able to keep up with him at a party. He loves adventures! He’ll also be intrigued by any spur of the moment plans you come up with. An Aquarius will be down to try anything once!^{[14]
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- If you prefer living a quiet life, it might be tough to make it work with this guy. That said, Aquarius folks do tend to be loners at heart, so you never know.
- Don't be surprised if he loves a good party but spends half the time on the sidelines observing everyone. An Aquarius gets bored easily and if the people are dull, he’s more likely to make snarky commentary while he sips his drink.
- According to Astrologers Tali & Ophira Edut, “They’re often drawn to spontaneous and adventurous signs like Sagittarius, Aries, Libra, and Gemini.”^{[15]
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Share opinions without being confrontational.

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He has strong opinions and expects you to have them, as well. The last thing an Aquarius man wants is a shrinking violet! Always tell him what you think, even if you’re disagreeing with him. In fact, he’ll probably love it if you have a different opinion than him and want to hear all about it! Just be sure to share your opinions in a low-key, non-confrontational way. Remember: he values logic over emotion.
- If the conversation gets emotional or heated, he’s likely to make a quick exit.
- Tali & Ophira Edut say that Aquarians love deep conversations. They want to feel like their partner is also their best friend and can meet them where they are intellectually.^{[16]
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Offer to help him with something.

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Aquarians can be a little scatterbrained and will appreciate the help. Garbis says, “Aquarians are very mental and can sometimes need administrative help. If they are extra busy, you can offer to help them with something. Ask if he needs food or his laundry picked up from the dry cleaner, and be a good and helpful friend.”^{[17]
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- “But if he says he can handle it himself, it’s important to give him his space,” Garbis notes. Aquarians can be very independent.

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Be open-minded about new ideas.

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This sign tends to have a socially progressive streak. Politics and humanitarian issues are important to Aquarius folks. They never judge others by their race, lifestyle, sexual orientation, or gender and will quickly distance themselves from anyone who isn’t similarly open-minded. When you’re around him, make it a point to celebrate diversity and reject social injustice. He’ll expect you to listen to his ideas and have open-minded ideas of your own, too.
- “Aquarians are free-thinking and futuristic,” Garbis notes. If he brings up interesting or progressive views, ask him to elaborate and have a deep discussion about it. “They need a good sounding board, a good listener, and someone who they can bounce ideas off of and can inspire,” Garbis explains.^{[18]
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Pursue your own passions and goals.

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Aquarius men want independent partners that go after what they want. Your man is probably very independent; this mentality is important to him. It’s essential that you have your own life and actively pursue your interests. Stay busy with your own projects (which he’ll want to hear all about). If he senses any clinginess or emotional neediness, he might be turned off.
- Garbis says, “It would be good to have your own passions, hobbies and pursuits to keep you from being so focused on the relationship."^{[19]
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- “Maintain a life of your own to prove that you are a high quality, self sufficient, confident person and that you don't need your Aquarius to always pick up the pieces or dictate how you live your life,” she explains.^{[20]
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Be patient and give him plenty of space.

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He'll get spooked if you try to fast-track the relationship. According to Eyedealism, “You definitely have to give the Aquarius man space."^{[21]
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Expert Interview} Romantically, it can take a while for an Aquarius to warm up. He won’t jump into a serious relationship right away and if he feels pressured to do so, he won’t stick around. Give him time to get to know you and don’t rush him into anything.^{[22]
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- “You need to give him time and space for intellectual detachment,” Eyedealism continues.^{[23]
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- According to Garbis, “If an Aquarius man is distancing himself, he has something on his mind that he needs to work out. It’s necessary to give him his space to think and allow him to have his process for dealing with life.”^{[24]
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Watch for tell-tale signs he’s into you.

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Aquarians will make it clear when they’re feeling romantic. Garbis says when an Aquarius is into you, he’ll want to spend extra time with you. He’ll text you, ask you questions, and tell you what’s on his mind. He’ll also touch you when he’s hanging out with you and tell you straight up that he’s been thinking about you.^{[25]
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- She also says he’ll probably text funny things to you and hint at things he wants to try with you.^{[26]
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Make it clear that you’re into him, too.

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He’ll need to get a clear signal from you that you’re feeling it. Once you’ve secured his friendship and started noticing signs that he’s caught feelings for you, be sure to start dropping romantic hints. Eyedealism says that you could get permanently friendzoned by an Aquarius if you don’t eventually start showing your hand.^{[27]
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- Eyedealism explains, “Since Aquarians are so in their head, you definitely need to let them know that you're interested in them, especially if you are sexually interested in them.”^{[28]
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- “Remind him about your interest in his physical body, sexuality, and emotions, as Aquarians have an ability to detach,” Eyedealism continues. “Communicate in a viscerally sexual way while still engaging intellectually."^{[29]
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Hi all, I'm a 26F and I have a big crush on this guy, so naturally I tried to find out his sign as quickly as possible, lol. He's an Aquarius! I have never dated an Aquarius before and am curious about what it's like. Give me th good, the bad, and the ugly please!