I am 67. She is 25.
I am retired, divorced and have 5 children in their 30's. Will this relationship work?
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I don't know what the research tells us about the tipping point where the size of an age gap goes from being a neutral fact about a couple, to becoming a problem or a risk factor. I think you have to ask yourself, is it a risk factor?
I think that age difference itself is not a particularly meaningful variable, but there are two ways that age difference impacts couples. One, it can end up being a cultural difference. When there's an age difference between partners, cultural references or cultural location points can be lost. The TV shows that I grew up with are the same ones that my husband grew up with because we are the same age. If there was an age difference, we'd have different pop culture references and we'd have different relationships to different historical moments. Cultural differences can be intimacy enhancers when people in the couple show curiosity and find it interesting.
The other way an age gap can play out is if there's a difference between your developmental stages of life. I have known many couples where an age difference may have meant little when they were 40 and 32, but it felt very different when they were 70 and 62. There can be developmental points where an age difference starts to take on more meaning.
I don't necessarily view an age gap as a make-or-break. But, I think when a couple has an age difference that ends up putting them in different life stages or different kind of generational stages, then they need to make sure that they're being mindful of how to protect what's great about your relationship from the impact of this age difference, you know?
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I think that age difference itself is not a particularly meaningful variable, but there are two ways that age difference impacts couples. One, it can end up being a cultural difference. When there's an age difference between partners, cultural references or cultural location points can be lost. The TV shows that I grew up with are the same ones that my husband grew up with because we are the same age. If there was an age difference, we'd have different pop culture references and we'd have different relationships to different historical moments. Cultural differences can be intimacy enhancers when people in the couple show curiosity and find it interesting.
The other way an age gap can play out is if there's a difference between your developmental stages of life. I have known many couples where an age difference may have meant little when they were 40 and 32, but it felt very different when they were 70 and 62. There can be developmental points where an age difference starts to take on more meaning.
I don't necessarily view an age gap as a make-or-break. But, I think when a couple has an age difference that ends up putting them in different life stages or different kind of generational stages, then they need to make sure that they're being mindful of how to protect what's great about your relationship from the impact of this age difference, you know?
LOL, 67. But seriously, you should get the whole family together to talk about it if you haven't done so already and have an OPEN discussion where the family can talk about their views and you can explain your reasons. Hope we helped.
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Just make sure she isn't a gold digger who just wants an inheritance after you croak
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Yes if you really do love each other you will be happy and your relationship will work.
As for the age gap if she’s alright with that it’s okay and she and your kids are about the same age so they would be friends. I wish you the best of luck goodbye
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As for the age gap if she’s alright with that it’s okay and she and your kids are about the same age so they would be friends. I wish you the best of luck goodbye
haha 67. ummmmmmm she is younger than your kids. i mean... if you truly love each other and she's cool with it than sure but you two are gonna face some judgement and you have to be prepared for that.
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