How do I know if a girl wants me to touch her?
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Watch her body language for signs she wants you to touch her. If she's sitting close to you, staring into your eyes, giggling whenever you tell her something, or even touching you lightly, she may be wanting more of a physical connection.
Subtle touches are okay if she’s giving you these signs. Touch her on the leg or on the back, but be gentle and soft. If she seems uncomfortable or like she isn’t enjoying it, then stop so there are no awkward feelings.
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Subtle touches are okay if she’s giving you these signs. Touch her on the leg or on the back, but be gentle and soft. If she seems uncomfortable or like she isn’t enjoying it, then stop so there are no awkward feelings.
There are some key signs to pay attention for. See if they're getting closer to you, making lots of eye contact, or looking at your lips a lot. These are often signs a girl wants you to touch them. Try to gauge as they move closer, and you reciprocate moving closer, does it look like their discomfort increases or their comfort increases?
When you do touch them, try a soft touch on the shoulder. If they do not flinch, if they do not pull back, and if they look like they lean into it, then you can try a light touch on their leg and see how they respond. Make sure to back off as soon as you notice any signs of discomfort, and never go straight into touching someone's leg.
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When you do touch them, try a soft touch on the shoulder. If they do not flinch, if they do not pull back, and if they look like they lean into it, then you can try a light touch on their leg and see how they respond. Make sure to back off as soon as you notice any signs of discomfort, and never go straight into touching someone's leg.
I think that sometimes we have this expectation that men in American society should be the "aggressors", and should be the one to push the woman up against the wall, and kiss her, and know exactly what she wants. And the reality is, that's actually not what most women are interested in. And so, it's really important to ask. If you want to know if your date or your partner wants you to touch her, you have to ask her and say, "I really would love to kiss you, is that okay? I want to touch your leg. Can I do that? Do you want me to touch your clit?" Like, do you want me to do this?
Ultimately, without asking, you just don't know if they actually want that. If they don't want that, it's really important for you to say, "No problem", and for you to just continue doing the sexual act that you were doing before you asked. This is because your feelings of rejection are not her responsibility, so it's really important for you to recognize that if you are feeling rejected, it's okay, it's normal. It's also important for you to be able to verbalize that and communicate, but also remember that doesn't give you the right to her body.
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Ultimately, without asking, you just don't know if they actually want that. If they don't want that, it's really important for you to say, "No problem", and for you to just continue doing the sexual act that you were doing before you asked. This is because your feelings of rejection are not her responsibility, so it's really important for you to recognize that if you are feeling rejected, it's okay, it's normal. It's also important for you to be able to verbalize that and communicate, but also remember that doesn't give you the right to her body.
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